My sister here (Helen) carries a whole lot of energy and good vibes. She should be the most energetic person in my life. Her ability to calm a situation remains unbeatable and her reaching out game is super strong…
You will have to agree with me that so many people go through tough life challenges. Something interesting about it is the fact that they are people we claim to know. There was this friend of mine who was emotionally down and was already deteriorating in low self esteem. She looked so happy and jovial on the outside but deep inside she was a sad. We got talking about somethings and she opened up speedily about what was wrong with her. An adage says “that a problem shared is half solved” (make sure you’re sharing it with a reliable person because most people just want to know what’s going on in your life and kick you). If you don’t want your problem/issue to be trivialized, it’s better to share it with someone who has experienced/is experiencing the same.
You will have to agree with me that so many people go through tough life challenges. Something interesting about it is the fact that they are people we claim to know. There was this friend of mine who was emotionally down and was already deteriorating in low self esteem. She looked so happy and jovial on the outside but deep inside she was a sad. We got talking about somethings and she opened up speedily about what was wrong with her. An adage says “that a problem shared is half solved” (make sure you’re sharing it with a reliable person because most people just want to know what’s going on in your life and kick you). If you don’t want your problem/issue to be trivialized, it’s better to share it with someone who has experienced/is experiencing the same.
Someone who has been enjoying comfort all his life may not understand what it means not to know where your next meal will come from.
Someone who has no problem with conception may not understand the pains and struggles of another who has to pray, fast, and wait for five years before having a baby.
Someone who has never failed may not understand the burdens that come with failure.
Your experience/pain is not a waste, it’s for a purpose. Instead of wallowing in self-pity and denial, you can use your experience to reach out to others. By doing this, you’ll also find healing and fulfillment.
I gave her the little advice I could and was there for her throughout that period till she got herself together and started loving herself again. She’s currently on an amazing journey of self love and need I say she’s doing so well.
When you see a look of panic cross a loved one’s face, offer something that will have an immediate impact: your hand.
Perhaps it’s instinct to do that anyway. But now, there’s a hand holding data to back it up.
Cultivating good relationships brings lots of perks, not the least of which is stress reduction for both parties. If you have ever cozied up to a companion during a scary movie, you know the feeling.
But the calming influence extends far beyond the horror-movie moments. A good friend or family member can also help talk you through real-life troubles, or they can just be a comforting physical presence during tough times.
What she is wearing:
Top: Disney
Jean Trouser: H&M
Sneakers: H&M
Where will you rock this casual outfit to? Do well to let me know. Thank you.
15 Comments
Tijesunimi
February 2, 2018 at 2:02 pmThis is amazing! Keep up the good work babe
Living The Life
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Living The Life
February 2, 2018 at 2:46 pmGreat piece…
Keep up the good work.
Unknown
February 3, 2018 at 1:09 pmHelenuuuuuuu is a calmer😉..Julie mama come here o..Sister Phyk 😄😄..Hey guys get you some Helen..!!
Victoria Oyedepo
February 3, 2018 at 1:09 pmThank you very much Tijesunimi. Good to have you here.
Victoria Oyedepo
February 3, 2018 at 1:11 pmThank you so much Faith😍😍. Keep checking back for more
Victoria Oyedepo
February 3, 2018 at 1:25 pmLoool. My sisturrrrrrr❤. Thank you
Unknown
February 20, 2018 at 8:52 pmMaya Angelou would always say, "just do right."
Speak right, do right . Let your words be soothing.
Great post Victoria!
Oladipo Olabisi Samuel
April 2, 2018 at 1:09 am��
Oladipo Olabisi Samuel
April 2, 2018 at 1:13 amBeautiful post right here
Unknown
May 25, 2018 at 1:42 pmI really love what you do
Unknown
May 25, 2018 at 1:42 pmI really love what you do
Victoria Oyedepo
May 27, 2018 at 10:06 amTrue. Thank you Temitope😍😍
Victoria Oyedepo
May 27, 2018 at 10:07 amThank you ladipo😍
Victoria Oyedepo
May 27, 2018 at 10:08 amThank you very much Wonuola. I'm glad you do😍😍. Stay connected and don't forget to refer friends to read up too.