Recently I met an old friend who tried to ‘tension’ me with the timeline of her life and those of some other people that I know, intentionally. The former me would have progressed toward becoming influenced or begin getting stressed over exceeding her and the others or feeling unreliable, yet I basically grinned and drenched myself in her winning without a tinge of comparison and rivalry. It made me so cheerful to understand that I had relinquished that weight. Sometimes, the dread of not doing what’s needed like others comes up again in my heart yet I battle earnestly to overcome it since like an infection, it eats away my focus, peace, and happiness and infects my general wellbeing.
This may sound naive, particularly in a general public like our own, yet I am discovering harmony in being in my path, winning without anyone else terms and carrying others along, beyond self.
I want to believe that I am an exceptionally driven individual, however, I am additionally endeavoring to be that individual who is worried about being better not in correlation with others but rather simply giving the plain best I can give in any circumstance I find myself. I would prefer not to be superior to my peers. I would prefer even not to be in rivalry with my peers. I genuinely don’t comprehend this ‘I beta pass my neighbor’ desire, particularly in a country like mine where our own magnification is at the mercy of a highly unfair, shaky and dead system.
There is such a great amount of weight around us to measure up to inconspicuous evaluations and gauges and some of the time we can get suffocated in it, I included. This world can be horrendous. It would be ideal if you battle to not fall prey to it. It will be an everyday fight. In the event that you can, seek to the fine and astonishing things of life, be propelled by others also yet don’t lose your tranquility and rest just to have the right stuff. Try not to end up harsh and angry of yourself as well as other people in light of the fact that your life doesn’t appear to pass by their own pace. Your pace is your pace. Remain in your path. If you think you are underperforming, move yourself to improve the situation than your last yield. This is the genuine development. You can live in contentment even while expanding your territory.
You will miss out on the nutritious food on your plate because your eyes are fixed on that of your neighbor because they appear colorful and varied not knowing that it is bleached with chemicals. The pressure outside can only drown us if we let it. The pressure is from within. [You are the one to be conquered and not the mountain. Move accordingly at your pace in your lane.
Feel free to share with me how you deal with peer pressure in the comment section