As reported by Hadley Freeman in the article titled “Michael Jackson’s life showed us the journey from abused to abuser” on The Guardian dated 26th March 2019; “Michael Jackson’s dad verbally abused him as a child, constantly calling him ‘fat nose”. This was a child who was suffering insecurity from his physical appearance already. He suffered vitiligo and broken nose and was so obsessed with fixing his physical appearance later. In short, his problems were many.

Child abuse is a serious and devastating drawback everywhere around the globe. It is defined by the World Health Organisation as “all forms of physical and emotional ill-treatment, sexual abuse, neglect and exploitation that results in actual or potential harm to the child’s health, development or dignity”. Four types of child abuse were distinguished: physical abuse; sexual abuse; emotional (or psychological) abuse; and neglect.

1. Physical abuse is the results of punching, beating, kicking, biting, burning, shaking, or otherwise harming a child physically.

 The parent or guardian who abused the child might not have a supposed intention of harming the child in question however the child’s injury could have resulted from too harsh disciplinary measures or physical penalties taken by such a parent or guardian.

2. Sexual abuse is a sort of abuse that involves sexual activity with a minor. A child cannot consent to any kind of sexual activity. Once a perpetrator engages with a child in this manner, they’re committing against the law that may have lasting effects on the victim for years. Child sexual abuse doesn’t need to embody physical contact between a perpetrator and a child. Some sorts of child sexual abuse include: Exhibitionism, or exposing oneself to a minor, Fondling, Intercourse, Masturbation within the presence of a minor or forcing the minor to masturbate, Obscene phone calls, text messages, or digital interaction, Producing, owning, or sharing pornographic pictures or movies of children, Sex of any kind with a minor, together with vaginal, oral, or anal, Sex trafficking or any other sexual conduct that’s harmful to a child’s mental, emotional, or physical welfare.

3. Psychological abuse is the most insidious type of abuse there is. Taking Nigeria as a case study, people want to see a busted lip and black eye before they can entertain any talk about abuse. Psychological abuse is the number one reason most people are suffering in silence. It usually starts when you are a child and it continues to show up in your life through church, your workplace, your romantic relationships and even with complete strangers.

4. Neglect is a typical type of child abuse. Overlooking a child’s needs, placing them in unsupervised, perilous circumstances, presenting them to sexual situations, or making them feel useless or inept are likewise types of child abuse and they leave profound, enduring scars on children. A wide range of maltreatment and disregard leave lasting scars. A portion of these scars may be physical, however, emotional scarring has enduring impacts all through life, harming a child’s feeling of self, their future relationship, and capacity to be active at home, work and school. Impacts include the absence of trust and relationship challenges, center sentiments of being “useless” and inconvenience controlling feelings.

Statistically, what most parents fail to understand is the implications of their words in the life outcome of their children. Every word spoken into children is a seed which germinates to produce fruit. The words of Ben Carson’s mother to him influenced his life’s outcome. She constantly told him, “you can achieve ANYTHING you set your mind to achieve. You can do it!” – coined from the book “Gifted Hands”.

The home is supposed to be a safe haven for the kids but the opposite is what is being displayed in homes nowadays. Some kids face abuse and humiliation in school and among peer groups only to come home to face the same thing. Then you wonder why they turn out horrible. Some parents, especially my tribe, The Yorubas, can engage in abusive words which they see nothing wrong with. These seemingly harmless adjectives or nouns called by parents can mutilate children’s self-esteem. Orobo(fat), opelenge(thin), blacky, blackface, big head, big ears, rabbit ears, kebu(bow leg), kukute(a short person), big teeth, big breasts, crowded teeth, olodo(dullard) and so on are some of the seemingly adjectives or nouns called by some of the Yoruba parents.

Parents should never cultivate the habit of body shaming their kids or use their deficiencies to mock them. Also, they should pick a fight with anyone who does. They should defend their children instead of joining forces with outsiders to rip their self-worth. Your words as a parent can either make or break your child and the fact remains that Children never forgets how parents made them feel.

Below is a little scenario of verbal abuse between a child and the parents

Child: “Daddy, you said we will go to the museum this holiday.”

Dad: “Which museum? Where’s the money! Please don’t disturb my life!”

Child: “Mummy, can we buy Cocopops?”

Mum: “Eez as if you are mad! N2,250 for ordinary cornflakes! So if I buy you will chop, abi?! You berra remove your hand from that shelf! Nonsense!”

You don’t have to buy Cocopops, but you can be nicer when turning down a child’s offer. People buying Cocopops don’t have two heads. Instead of rebuking a child for wanting the best cereals on the shelf, you should admonish yourself for not ever having enough to buy these things. Your children should be your biggest motivation to be better.

I really hate seeing kids treated like shit. They didn’t ask to be born. If you made that decision to have them, then everything changes. This convenient parenting where children are allowed to grow unsupervised is nerve-wracking.

Display some kindness with your words to a child. We could always be more genuine, nicer, more considerate.

When a child that suffers abuse becomes an adult, the adult, in turn, abuses other children. This is how abuse is recycled.

Dear Parents/Guardians, when your children are wrong, fight for the right of the other child and tell your child they are wrong. When your child is right, stand with him/her. When they are weak, fight for them. Then turn to them and tell them they have to find courage.

The best protection we can provide for children is INFORMATION. The best bulwark is teaching them to apply Information appropriately as it suits their lives.

As children grow older, the conversation becomes more sincere. In those moments, they realise how lucky they are. You see, I don’t take bullying lightly. That shit destroys children for the rest of their lives! It kills their confidence, makes them constantly unsure and afraid. Ruins their self-esteem to tatters.

Staying silent and quietly brooding over the pain and abuse that children and even adults suffer will not help them. This silence and tolerance are even one of the reasons why the ills have been getting worse by the day. Our problems will not fix themselves. We are the change our society needs.

Parents, relatives & teachers, you are the first line of support for children. It’s important for you to have an open line of communication with them and build a sense of trust. Just as it is important, to identify when children are struggling emotionally. African children tend to internalize their feelings. Getting them to open up and talk to you can feel like a challenge. The following tips can be helpful:

*Always create a good relationship with your children

*Make them feel safe.

*Affirm and support their need for help

*Listen to them when they speak.

The words instilled in a child will help that child to live right and make the right choices even when no one else is around.


1. Establishing safe homes and safety networks with organizations in your area.

2. Establishing neighborhood support groups for abused children and their families.

3. Making efforts to ascertain additional and better-equipped orphanages and houses for children to safeguard homeless children and orphans while showing them enough warmheartedness and attention.

4. Employing qualified and skilled workers to take charge of the affairs of the children to curb ill-treatment, negligence, exploitation.

5. The government encouraging NGOs by financially aiding them in raising awareness through building capability, abuse and rehabilitation centers, empowerment programs like vocational education.

6. NGOs should encourage and collaborate with relevant authorities particularly the government in providing substantial knowledge, data and ideas on the way to tackle child abuse menace. The National and states house of assembly should review the child right act legislation with a view to curbing child abandonment and abuse.

7. Improving the living standards of the citizens so as to discourage child labour and child marriages.

8. Organising neighborhood awareness campaigns. Sensitization campaigns should be doled out to enlighten the public on the impact and effect of child abuse and negligence.

9. Organising activities in your neighborhood that address issues contributing to child abuse, such as poverty, life skills, unemployment.

10. Looking for positive ways to bring up children. Children should be educated on safety methods to use to discover and avoid pedophiles and kidnappers.

11. Encouraging children to speak out. If you are feeling threatened, tell someone that you trust. If someone has already abused you, do not protect him/her – protect yourself. If you are not believed – tell someone else. In some cases, friends will help you (if you are all alone at home with a relative who is compromising your safety, continue inviting friends over).

12. Meting stiffer punishments for child abuse with the end goal of dissuading future culprits.

13. Also sharing this article after reading it. The more people are informed, the fewer victims there will be.

1. American Psychological Association
750 First Street, NE
Washington, District of Columbia 20002
Phone: (202) 336-5500
Toll-Free: (800) 374-2721

2. AVANCE, Inc.
National Headquarters
118 N. Medina
San Antonio, Texas 78207
Phone: (210) 270-4630
Fax: (210) 270-4363
AVANCE’s main goal is to offer help and instruction benefits that will strengthen low-salary families. AVANCE’s attention is on a network-based intercession that is family-focused, preventive, far-reaching, and constant through the mix and cooperation of administrations. The AVANCE Family Support and Education Program is a case of one of AVANCE’s projects: Targeted principally at Hispanic in danger guardians with youthful youngsters, the program plans to reinforce parent-kid connections and the parental job of the promoter for the child. 
3. Bikers Against Child Abuse International
P.O. Box 852
La Crosse, Wisconsin 54602
Toll-Free: (866) 712-2873
Bikers Against Child Abuse, Inc. (BACA) is devoted to making a more secure condition for abused children. BACA works with neighborhood and State authorities to ensure and enable children to not feel terrified of the word in which they live.
4. Center for Effective Discipline
1900 South Ave.
La Crosse, Wisconsin 54601
Phone: (608) 775-4883
Fax: (614) 221-2110
The Center for Effective Discipline gives instructive data to people in general on the impacts of the beating of children and options in contrast to its utilization. CED is the central command for and the facilitator of both the National Coalition to Abolish Corporal Punishment in Schools (NCACPS) and End Physical Punishment of Children (EPOCH-USA).

5. Center for Violence and Injury Prevention
1 Brookings Drive
Campus Box 1196
George Warren Brown School of Social Work
Campus Box 1196
St. Louis, Missouri 63130
Phone: (314) 935-8129
The Center for Violence and Injury Prevention (CVIP) advances sound youthful families and solid youthful grown-ups by propelling proof based brutality counteractive action through a scope of instruction, inquire about, and preparing exercises on points that incorporate child misuse and disregard and sexual savagery.

CVIP’s accomplices and teammates incorporate different colleges and network-based offices serving the most powerless populace.

CVIP is financed by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Komo Lane (Off Wood Avenue),
P.O. Box 1768 Code 00200
City Square, Nairobi, Kenya
Tel: 254 20 2140010, 2140011, 2140013
ANPPCAN is a pan African system that advances children’s rights and child protection in Africa. Established and situated in Africa, our central goal is to upgrade, in association with others, the aversion, and insurance of children from all types of abuse, accordingly, guaranteeing that the privileges of the children are figured it out.
7. Gavel
2nd Floor, 42 Montgomery road,
Yaba, Lagos.
Tel: 08102842542
Gavel is a metro tech association that builds the pace of equity conveyance through tech by following court cases, giving access to equity and decreasing the mistiness in the equity division.
Warif center,
6 Turton Street, off Thorburn Avenue
Yaba, Lagos
The Foundation was established to raise awareness and address the prevalence of this problem through the “WARIF Approach”- a unique holistic method of tackling Gender-Based Violence through the development and implementation of a series of initiatives, targeting both the intervention/treatment of these affected women, as well as providing preventive measures in education and community service to reduce the high incidence.

We all have the responsibility to protect children.

What are your contemplations on Child Abuse and further approaches to prevent it? It would be nice if you don’t hesitate to share them in the comment segment.

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